Build Your Yes / No / Maybe List — The Kinky Compatibility Guide
Discover what you’re eager to try, curious about, or firmly off‑limits — together.
What Exactly Is a Yes / No / Maybe (YNM) List?
A YNM List is a structured consent map that helps you and your partner identify:
- Yes ✅ — you’re excited to include it.
- No ❌ — you never want it in play.
- Maybe ❓ — you’re intrigued but need more info or the right mood.
It can cover impact, sensation, psychological play, role‑play, and more.
How to Use It for Desire Dialogue
Fill out the list separately, then compare:
- Spot overlapping YES for immediate fun.
- Discuss each MAYBE — what info or setting would flip it to yes or no?
- Respect NO items — they’re not negotiable.
Free Template 📄
Grab our resources and start ticking boxes:
Need inspiration? Scan the QR code on the PDF to see 60+ cool ideas on Discord.
From “Maybe” to “Discovery” 🛤️
Treat each MAYBE as an adventure seed:
- Research the risks and safety requirements.
- Play small — observe or try a mild version first.
- Debrief and note feelings; upgrade it to YES or NO.
Quick Kink Glossary 🔖
- Sensory Deprivation: blindfolds, earplugs, isolation hoods.
- Service Submission: offering acts like tea service or grooming.
- Wax Play: dripping warm candle wax on skin.
- Medical Play: clinical role‑play with needles or exams.
- Pet Play: dog/cat/pony personas and gear.
