Some first times are tender. Some are awkward. Mine? It involved a leather whip, too much confidence, and one very brave bottom. 💥

I had just begun exploring my Dominant side. I was obsessed with getting it “right”: the right stance, the right snap, the right *look*. So I trained in front of a mirror like I was rehearsing for a Broadway scene… with a bullwhip. 🎭

The first strike? Satisfying. The second? Sexy. The third? Too much.

“Lower,” he said softly.

So I did. I aimed for his upper thighs.

But what he meant was “Lower the *force*.” And I… didn’t.

The next day, I got a photo of a dark purple bruise with a message:

“First times are like this, right? 😅”

Lesson learned: Don't let performance ego override communication. Whip smart, not hard. 🖤

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