Who's Who in the Dungeon
A Lighthearted Guide to BDSM Roles and Power Dynamics
🎭 Meet the Cast of Kink
Alright, you've got your safe word. You've negotiated a scene without passing out from secondhand embarrassment. Now it's time to meet the cast of characters in the kinky theater of life.
Because BDSM isn’t just about what you do—it’s about who you are when you do it.
👑 Dominant (aka Dom/Domme)
The one in charge. The captain. The boss. The person who gives the orders and maybe holds the crop.
Being dominant isn’t about yelling or acting like a Marvel villain—it’s about taking responsibility, being in control (with consent), and creating an experience your submissive can trust.
Types of Dominants
- Service Dom – Takes care of their submissive’s needs like a fancy butler with a whip
- Sadistic Dom – Likes inflicting pain (the consensual kind)
- Daddy/Mommy Dom – Nurturing, protective, and occasionally full of stern bedtime rules
🧎 Submissive (aka sub)
The one who follows. The one who surrenders. The one who (gasp!) likes it that way.
Being submissive isn’t about weakness. It’s about intentional vulnerability—giving power because you trust the other person to hold it with care.
Types of Submissives
- Service sub – Lives to serve (fetches coffee and kneels beautifully)
- Pain slut – Thrives on intense sensation (and possibly loud moaning)
- Brat – Disobeys playfully to provoke a reaction (“Oops, did I roll my eyes again?”)
🔁 Switch
Can go either way. Tops today, bottoms tomorrow. Gives orders in the morning, begs for mercy by dinner.
Switches aren’t indecisive—they’re just versatile. Think of them as the bisexuals of the kink world. Maximum fun, minimal boxes.
📚 Other Dynamic Terms You’ll Hear
- Top – The person doing the thing (e.g. tying, spanking)
- Bottom – The person receiving the thing
- Master/Mistress & slave – A more intense power exchange dynamic, often 24/7 and built on deep trust
- Pet & Owner – Includes elements of animal play, care, obedience, and sometimes adorable tails
- Primal/Predator & Prey – Raw, instinctual power dynamics (growling optional but encouraged)
🤔 Do You Have to Pick One?
Nope. Explore. Experiment. Try roles on like fancy kink hats. You might discover you’re a bratty sub with switchy tendencies and a secret inner Daddy.
It’s a journey—not a job title.
➡️ Continue Exploring
Next up: Types of Bondage – Ropes, Restraints, and Responsibility
